my new blog..

wat a nice poem to give ponder about..

i came across this article, find it very interesting n would like to share to those who happen to read dis blog.

Enjoy de reading.

By: Sally Rawhey

It has to be what I want! No, what I want!

These are the two sentences each newly married couple scream out in total silence. It is unusual that they would express it to each other, but their actions indicate what is going on in their minds. Who will lead the battle, who will carry an army of patience and who will allow his armies to attack?

They entered this marriage in the name of love, or even in the name of mutual understanding and respect, however, the first months and years of marriage encourage a lot of destructive weapons, strategic planning and explosive intentions.

Let’s not be too dramatic. Let’s move in slowly and see what it’s all about.

He walked in and closed the door behind you….. You smiled, that’s the moment you have been waiting for so long. Just you and him finally in your home - husband and wife - and a future of happiness. He is all yours and you are all his… what could go wrong? Simply nothing!

Take some advice, cross the ‘no’ out of this dialog, because unfortunately there are a lot of things ahead. A lot of it is negative. It is not a smooth road ahead! No! Marriage is so far from it. It is sweet yes, but bitter sweet! Here are some bites for you to taste.

Some Money …. Less money…. No money

Here’s the situation: You had the wedding you wanted, you furnished the flat you struggled for, and you spent on the honeymoon you fancied. You are now back to reality with no money, some debts and a lot of blame!

Hubby: ? told you there was no need for all the expenses you insisted on for the wedding!”

Wife: “You didn’t seem to mind adding 20 couples to the list after we finished our budget…”

Hubby: “ We were not supposed to buy all that stuff on our honeymoon…”

Wife: “You were supposed to make better calculations..”

Money is among your first enemies; actually the lack of it straight after you have tied the knot. If you believe that the word “I” is spoken more than any other word, take this dare, the word money will pop up more with a newly-wed couple. Who takes the salary into his hand? Will he save any money? Will this money be enough for the month? Where did your money go? You said you would give me more money?

Money, money…money…is the much hated friend that shares your marriage. It can even destroy it, especially in those early days when its scarcity can be translated by both partners as stinginess, selfishness or even failure.

Habits…Habits…and More Habits..

These will surely create some waves of fury as you swim your way into your life-long relationship with your spouse. She takes all the covers to herself and rolls in it like a salmon sandwich. He snores like a rhino all night long. She spends hours showering and there is only one toilet to use when nature calls. He doesn’t seem to mind the suffocating smell that comes out of his shoes and takes it lightly. She does not pick up her clothes and leaves them piled on the couch.

He and she both have different habits that they have been living with for years and years and simply do not care to change after marriage, no matter how annoying these might be to the other party. One woman complained at the beginning of her marriage that her husband insisted on carrying her once he stepped into the house, like some kind of obsession, he would lift her off the ground immediately as soon as he saw her.

At the beginning it was cute and sweet and you name it, but when this habit continued on a daily basis even after they had their first baby, she was greatly alarmed. Her husband was more interested to carry her than he cared to carry his baby son.

And years went by and the habit never lost momentum with him; he continued to carry her unless he was sick. And the son grew, watching his father carry his mother all around the house. Then one day the mother walked into the house to find her son moving towards her and sweeping her off the ground, carrying her in his arms just like his father. That is when she could not take it any more.

What an interesting habit! Too bad she didn’t like it! But then again one finds it difficult to accept other people’s habits that are alien to him. Often time makes it bearable but at other times a habit is painful and a continuous topic of arguments between husband and wife.

My family Vs Your family…

Dividing time among the in-laws is a major issue to newly-weds. It is an issue that is better discussed and finalized before marriage. This is one issue were six people have to be satisfied, not just the married couple, and it also includes two sets of parents who are still learning how to let go of their “kids” to their new life. It requires a lot of sacrifice, a lot of understanding and a lot of patience to reach a deal that is accepted by all.

It is so difficult; .a task that even Superman would consider “dangerous”! Both spouses want the day off with their parents; each wants the first day of Ramadan with their parents; each wants the first day of Eid with their parents…and so on and so forth.

Who Stole the Fire?

The fire of love will often lose its glow after the first few months of marriage and the intensity of the emotions that used to shift and turn them in waves of romance, will lighten up. Usually a woman spots this case first and turns to her husband with another fire in her eyes asking, “What changed you? You haven’t said you love me all week? You come back from work and sit in front of the TV in total silence! You don’t want to drive me any where, after you used to beg me to drive me any where! You don’t love me any more!?!”

Or a husband could even be the first to track the situation, and cynically accuse the wife of changing, “Why is your hair such a mess, and what is this you’re wearing, you look like Hassan Metwaly, my buddy from my army days!

You only talk about what the house is missing but you never make me feel that you’re happy; we’re happy together…bla, bla, bla “

It is a long list of complaints that rise to the surface when the strong churning feelings of love sink below the normal routine of a married couple. In life, nothing remains with its strong intensity, everything eventually fades out. A scientist would tell me that this is the law of Osmosis, or is it diffusion…the diffusion of the strong, burning heat of love to a cooler existence that all married couple eventually live in.

There are countless problems that could plague a new marriage and shake its roots before it has time to grow deep and strong. The newly-married couple could well be struggling with financial difficulties, in-law problems, lack of accommodation, full working schedules combined with the unfamiliarity of living under the same roof with a spouse. What to do? Grab two chairs, put a smile on your faces and two, big breaths from each of you. Better set the rules now, and make your agreements before it turns into a ‘blame war’. And remember as you sit before each other with demands, that marriage is all about sacrifices.

A more important part of smoothing your relationship during those tough, first years is to do beautiful things together. The first thing to do is to snatch any chance to Pray together. Encourage your partner to read or recite Quran together. Visit each of your families together. Do anything that brings good to other people and do it together. You will find that nothing will get you closer to your spouse than yielding good deeds together. It is only by being together that will you stay together!

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Life sometimes deals with us some pretty rough blows,

At times without clue, what direction it flows.

It takes the wind from our sail and leaves us adrift, with sadness and sorrow as its unwelcome gifts…

There’s a time for mourning, there’s pain with our loss, but like other barriers, it’s a river to cross.

As life’s pages turn, certain doors we must close, with acceptance of endings our wisdom then grows.

There’s a cross road we reach, whether ready or not… it’s within our own power, what course we must plot. We can sadly drift along, letting sorrow take us down, or we can realize our blessings, turning sadness around.

However, in other way around..

We can turn back the pages and reflect with a smile, maybe cherish special moments to relieve for a while. But every door that closes another swing wide, with a beckoning of encouragement for us to step inside.

With faith as our lifeline, there’s a big world out there,

There’s so much to explore,

Giving up can’t compare,

So put a smile on our face and thank God.. we still have life to live up

Give credits to its source,

That we have a chance to survive…

We have adventures to pursue and also sweet memories to make (not just to remember thou),

So to live..to see tomorrow is the choice we must take,

For whatever this is worth,

This thought we embrace,

To know we have chosen to try leave a smile on our face…

Then…Stop crying.

exhibition of DRAFT KL CITY PLAN 2020.

to all KLites…do play your part NOW.

We welcome each n evryone of you to this exhibition and urge u to share ur opinions n comments on de draft plan. Just write ur thoughts in de Public Opinion Form dat will be available at de exhibition. U may also log on to klcityplan2020.dbkl.gov.my.

Exhibition Venues:

Kuala Lumpur City Hall has selected the following venues to stage the DRAFT KUALA LUMPUR CITY PLAN 2020 EXHIBITION.

1. Main Kuala Lumpur Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Main Lobby, KLCH Building, Jalan Raja Laut, Kuala Lumpur.

            Date: 15^th May to 30^th June 2008

2.       City Centre Strategic Zone Exhibition

            Venue: Berjaya Times Square

            Date: 15^th May to 14^th June 2008

3. Damansara-Penchala Strategic Zone Plan Exhibition

            Venue: KL Sentral, Level 1

Date: 15^th May to 31^st May 2008

Venue: TTDI Community Centre (Library)

            Date: 1^st June to 16^th June 2008

4. Wangsa Maju-Maluri Strategic Zone Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Gombak Community Centre (Taman Melati)

            Date: 15^th May to 31^st May 2008

            Venue: CARREFOUR Wangsa Maju, (Ground Floor)

            Date: 15^th May to 15^th June 2008

5. Sentul-Menjalara Strategic Zone Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Jaya Jusco, Metroprima Shopping Centre, Kepong                                                    (Ground Floor)

            Date: 15^th May to 31^st May 2008

Venue: Menjalara Community Centre 

            Tarikh: 1^st June to 14^th June 2008

6.  Bandar Tun Razak-Sg. Besi Strategic Zone Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Tesco Ampang, (Entrance 1)

            Date: 15^th May to 15^th Jun 2008

Venue: Bandar Tun Razak Community Centre

            Date: 16^th June to 30^th June 2008

7. Bukit Jalil-Seputeh Strategic Zone Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Mid Valley City, Level 1 (South 2)

            Date: 4^th June to 15^th June 2008

Venue: Kampung Kerinchi Community Centre

            Date: 15th May to 3^rd June 2008

8. Kampong Bharu Plan Exhibition

            Venue: Main Lobby, KLCH Tower Building, Bandar

Wawasan

            Date: 15^th May to 30^th June 2008

…help us to make de city better…

We come to love not  by finding a perfect person,

But..by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly..

Love, is meant to last a lifetime..

It was nice remembering our childhood. Full of joy,naive and cheerful. The happy ‘highway’ where we went and of course cannot come again.

In fact, we never know what this little girl or boy will turn up when they grow up..

And yes..she love to laugh since she was a little..

its me upps

Always questioning n eating nonstop

:p

i wonder what happen to the blue doll hmmmm

and how about this cute little boy, Kerol..

little busy bee

Introducing, the kids bully>abg aran n abg aren bulliying me n kerol

my fav lil brother, Pali

o yes, de onli sister dat i have..Ana yg cute

I hide myself within my flower,

That wearing on your chest,

You, unsuspecting, wear me too –

And angels know the rest.

I hide myself within my flower,

That, fading from your vase,

You, unsuspecting, feel for me

Almost a loneliness.

by Emily, 1924

Ada sesetengah kaum wanita (hanya sesetengah) mengatakan amat susah untuk menjadi wanita ISLAM, lihat saja peraturan dibawah ini :

1. Wanita auratnya lebih susah dijaga berbanding lelaki.

2. Wanita perlu meminta izin dari suaminya apabila mahu keluar rumah tetapi tidak sebaliknya.

3.Wanita saksinya kurang berbanding lelaki.

4. Wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki.

5. Wanita perlu menghadapi kesusahan mengandung dan melahirkan anak.

6. Wanita wajib taat kpd suaminya tetapi suami tak perlu taat pd isterinya.

7. Talak terletak di tgn suami dan bukan isteri.

8. Wanita kurang dlm beribadat karena masalah haid dan nifas yg tak ada pada lelaki.

Oleh yang demikian, mereka “nggak capek-capeknya” bersuara lantang berpromosi untuk "MEMERDEKAKAN WANITA ISLAM"

I wonder..Pernahkah mereka..pernahkah kita lihat perkara di sebaliknya (kenyataannya)??

Benda yg mahal harganya akan dijaga dan dibelai serta disimpan ditempat yg teraman dan terbaik. Sudah pasti intan permata tidak akan dibiar terserak bukan?

Itulah bandingannya dgn seorg wanita.

Wanita perlu taat kpd suami tetapi lelaki wajib taat kepada ibunya 3 kali lebih utama dari bapanya. Bukankah ibu adalah seorang wanita?

Wanita menerima pusaka kurang dari lelaki tetapi harta itu menjadi milik peribadinya dan tidak perlu diserahkan kepada suaminya, manakala lelaki menerima pusaka perlu menggunakan hartanya utk isteri dan anak-anak.

Wanita perlu bersusah payah mengandung dan melahirkan anak, tetapi setiap saat dia didoakan oleh segala makhluk, malaikat dan seluruh makhluk ALLAH di mukabumi ini, dan matinya jika kerana melahirkan adalah syahid.

Di akhirat kelak, seorang lelaki akan dipertanggungjawabkan terhadap 4 wanita ini:

Isterinya, ibunya, anak perempuannya dan saudara perempuannya.

Manakala seorang wanita pula, tanggungjawab terhadapnya ditanggung oleh 4 org lelaki ini:

Suaminya, ayahnya, anak lelakinya dan saudara lelakinya.

Seorang wanita boleh memasuki pintu Syurga melalui mana mana pintu Syurga yg disukainya cukup dgn 4 syarat saja : Sembahyang 5 waktu, puasa di bulan Ramadhan, taat suaminya dan menjaga kehormatannya serta kehormatan suami serta keluarganya.

Seorg lelaki perlu pergi berjihad fisabilillah tetapi wanita jika taat akan suaminya serta menunaikan tanggungjawabnya kepada ALLAH akan turut menerima pahala seperti pahala org pergi berperang fisabilillah tanpa perlu mengangkat senjata.

Masya ALLAH … demikian sayangnya ALLAH pada wanita …. kan?

WaAllahualam

Untuk renungan bagi diriku..kawan-kawan..serta seseorang yang disayangi serta dekat dihati ini..

by Raihan

Demi masa…

Sesungguhnya manusia kerugian

Melainkan… Yang beriman dan beramal saleh

Demi masa…

Sesungguhnya manusia kerugian

Melainkan… Nasihat kepada kebenaran dan kesabaran

Gunakan kesempatan yang masih diberi

Moga kita takkan menyesal

Masa usia kita jangan disiakan

Kerna ia takkan kembali

Ingat lima perkara, sebelum lima perkara

Sihat sebelum sakit,

Muda sebelum tua,

Kaya sebelum miskin,

Lapang sebelum sempit,

Hidup sebelum mati…

Demi masa… Sesungguhnya manusia kerugian

Melainkan… Yang beriman dan beramal saleh

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